Have you ever heard this statement before, “loneliness wants to kill me”? This may sound funny you know, but it’s true. Loneliness can actually kill if you don’t know how to manage it. This is the reason many people have resorted to doing nasty things when they are alone thinking they will cure their loneliness. We have seen some people drinking to stupor and disgracing themselves yet their loneliness is still there. There is no amount of alcohol, drug, or smoking that can cure loneliness. Masturbation or watching pornography cannot cure it. Until you understand God’s master keys for handling loneliness you will forever remain prey to this ill feeling monster. My assignment in this post is to show you from God’s word how to handle loneliness as a Christian.
WHAT IS LONELINESS?
Loneliness is that feeling of being bored and dull when you are alone without anybody to talk to or someone to talk to you. It is that ill-feeling that you are alone in this world and don’t have anybody to help you. Sometimes it comes with depression, anxiety, and inactivity. There are many things that may cause loneliness as one walks through the journey of life. You can feel lonely when you are matured for marriage yet you are single. One can feel lonely as a single mother, widow, widower, or Orphan. Even as a married man or woman, it’s possible to feel lonely when your spouse is not around or if they live very far away from you. One can also have this feeling of loneliness as a result of rejection, betrayal, or false accusation. Even as a single parent, when your children have grown old and are all gone to their different places leaving you all alone in the house can bring this feeling of loneliness. 7 out of 10 people around the world, feel lonely. There are motherless children, homeless people, and victims of war wandering in our streets with loneliness written boldly on their faces.
LONELINESS IS NOT GOD’S IDEA
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Eccl 4:9-10
Loneliness is not God’s idea. God didn’t make anyone live alone. The scripture says, two are better than one. Everyone needs somebody to love and be loved back. Everyone needs someone to talk to and listen to. Friendship, association, relationship, family, and community are God’s ideas for humanity. No one is an island.
From the beginning, the creator made everything two by two. That’s why you have two legs, two hands, two ears, hot and cold, night and day, male and female, etc. Anything that exists alone dies alone. Even the almighty God does not exist alone. He exists as Trinity (God the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit).
1. Understand that if you are a Child of God, you are not alone- Matt 28:20
Redemption makes us one with God. When you are born again, you have come to live, move and have your being in Christ and Christ lives in you and with you every day. His presence is always with you. Though you may not see Him with your optic eyes, He is there with you. He is more real than the very clothes on your body. He has promised that He will never leave you nor forsake you. He that watches over you will never sleep nor slumber. Emmanuel is His name, God is with us. Once you understand this truth, you will never feel lonely again. If God is for you, who can be against you? Even if the whole world abandons you, as long as God is with you, you will still be okay. One with God is a majority. When you are tempted to think that you are alone, remember Isaiah 41:10
Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.
2. Make the Holy Spirit Your Senior Partner-
The Holy Spirit is our Comforter. He is that friend that sticks closer than a brother. He is the most powerful, faithful, and reliable person in the universe. It is His ministry to guide, teach, help, strengthen, fellowship, share with and abide with the Believer. Get to know the Holy Spirit intimately and make Him your best friend and there will be no chance for loneliness in your life anymore. The Holy Spirit is the cure for loneliness.
3. Cultivate a lifestyle of prayer especially when you are alone.
The primary need of every man is God. Sometimes God intentionally allows some people to leave us so that we can draw more closer to Him. When you are alone, it is a good opportunity God has given to you to increase your prayer life. The buzz and busyness of family life and business can actually steal time away from your hands to pray. That’s why when hubby is not around, it’s not time to watch Television, it’s actually free time heaven has given to you to pray more. If you can convert your free time and lonely hours into prayer time, you will forever be free from that ill-feeling of loneliness.
4. Use Your Lonely hours to study your Bible- 2 Tim 2:15
The word of God is actually the food of the Spirit. It is God’s medicine for our spiritual, emotional and physical needs. There is no question of your life that doesn’t have answers in the scriptures. Any time you feel loneliness coming, grab your bible and read it. The promises of God brighten the soul. One word from the bible can change your moodiness to bliss. Jeremiah found the word of God and ate it up and it became the joy and rejoicing of his soul (Jer 15:16).
5. Be Planted in a Bible-believing church and be actively involved in church activities
One of the reasons God instructs that we should not be absent in the gathering of the brethren is so that we can be encouraged by the gifts and grace of one another. The church is the place to God when you are feeling bored, not the beer parlor. The church is the best place to go when you are feeling lonely, not brothels and clubhouses. The church is God’s family here on earth. And we are all members of this family of God. Be involved in your local church activities. Join one service group or the other. Don’t be that church member that always takes his bag and leaves immediately the service is over. Try to know people. Exchange pleasantries, you may meet that special person your life needs.
6. Be Sociable and Friendly
Life is about socializing. Don’t let your own spirituality get to the point that you can’t greet people again. Favor, breakthrough, connection, promotion, business, and even money are a man. Make good friends, especially people of like minds with you. Thank God for technology, with your smartphone connected to the internet, you can meet wonderful people across the globe from the comfort of your bedroom. I have some amazing friends in my life now who I met on social media and some of them I later met in person. Sometimes when you are bored, you can catch fun by chatting with your good friends on Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter, Instagram, etc. Unfortunately, many people don’t even have a social media account.
7. Exercise and Work out
Good exercise and body work out can relieve stress and loneliness. When you feel bored or lonely, go jogging, play football table tennis, swing or any sport you like doing. It helps.
8. Play your favorite games
There are funny, educational, and interesting games one can play with his or her computer or smartphones to cure loneliness. I have one game on my smartphone that I love so much. I can play that game and forget the food.
9. Watch your favorite movies and television programs.
Movies and videos are not just there only to entertain us, a good number of them can teach us good morals. So get your Christian movies and sermon videos and watch them when you are alone. They can keep you busy and free from loneliness.
10. Walk around or go for a sight view.
There is a way you will sit all alone in the house from morning to night, you will become sick. That’s true, you need to stretch out your legs sometimes. So when you are bored at home and feeling lonely, take a walk, visit your favorite park, museum and beautiful places. Some people visit a beach during hot weather. Make sure that you go to a safe and comfortable place, you can go in the company of two or three of your friends and return home when you feel ok.
CONCLUSION
Loneliness is a twin brother of idleness. I have never seen a man or woman busy with an assignment or project feeling lonely. I can be alone for months as long as I am busy with my assignment without feeling lonely. Don’t be idle or lazy. Any time you feel lonely, check very well and you will just discover you have been idle, find something meaningful and do with your time and loneliness will go.
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